7 你走出青春期了吗？ Emerging adulthood and early adulthood: slowly progressing into adulthood18-29 years of age-新兴成人/成人初显期No children, do not live in their own home,Don’t have sufficient income to be fully independent in their early to late 20s.
8 Emerging adulthood and early adulthood twenty-somethings have always struggled with "identity exploration, instability, self- focus, and feeling in-between“Jeffrey Arnett： Professor of Psychology Clark University ，Massachusetts“青春多好”是过来人说的
11 The Five Features of Emerging Adulthood 1. Identity explorations-Who am I? What do I really want out of life? And how do I fit into the world around me?2. Instability-change job/partner/major3. Self-focus-time of intense self-focus4. Feeling in between-teenage/adult5. Sense of possibilities-”eventually I will get what I want out of life.”
12 Launching, Exploring, and Landing Launching: 18 to 22-the entry phase of emerging adult-hood, important strides toward independence but still a lot of reliance on Mom and Dad.Exploring: 22 to 26-most have shaken off insecurity and uncertainty of the launching phase.Landing: 26 to 29-most make important choices that will form the structure of their adult lives in love and work.
16 易出的冲突(2/5) 代沟：“十七岁”/小学生失明 WHEN WILL MY GROWN-UP KID GROW UP? Confused about how to be a good parent.Nthg is that uncomplicated
17 易出的冲突(3/5)对父母更具有挑战性：何时退、何时进、 何时帮助且不干预、怎么关爱又不给压 力、让他们知道自己的信仰又让他们知 道这不是教条。成年子女缺乏动力时， 怎样帮助？Parents ask same qst: what do we do for the rest of our lives? When dealing with empty nest, flushes-uncertainty.
18 易出现的冲突（4/5）From conflict to companionship: A new relationship with parents 不像从前那样自我中心了，开始从父母 的角度看问题。很多觉得自己对待父母 的态度是可怕的，希望弥补。
19 易出现的冲突(5/5) 当父母们知道19-29岁还会在自己寻找未 来的路上有不确定的经历，而到30岁前 后大多数都会安顿下来时还是很安慰的。 “You can not hurry love”
28 人际关系与快乐(2/2) 人脉、人际吸引 “为什么女孩子失恋了，哭起来没完？” “失恋的康复方法？” “ Fall in love (few calls), then out of love （more moral support）”如果你期待另一个人让你快乐，你将会 无休止地失望。胎儿在羊水中的呐喊
29 经济独立与事业(1/4) “Look for job, not find job, fond job, leave job” They change jobs an average of seven times from age 20 to 29.Most don’t find a long-term job until their late twenties or beyond.This, too, is an international pattern.“The bank of mum and dad”
30 经济独立与事业(2/4) 毕淑敏：“规划自己的事业生涯，使事 业和人生相得益彰。 高峰体验：喜欢才能享受过程 Work: More than a job工作时间7万小时郑也夫：智慧的副产品会带来钱，但钱不为物欲服务。