Parenting 101

85% of a person’s cultivation of: intellect, personality, and skills happens before age 5. Pix taken from: http://montessoritraining.blogspot.com/2014/10/the-absorbent-mind-chapter-20-character.html#.VYS9K1LcA4Q

箴言Proverbs 22:6 教養孩童，使他走當行的道， 就是到老他也不偏離。 Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.

How to Discipline Your Children? 如何管教/教養你的孩子？ Pix taken from: http://at-risk.org/how-to-discipline-children-teen-problems-in-california/

How to Discipline Your Children? 如何管教/教養你的孩子？ Disciple 門徒 How to Disciple Your Children? (by Walter Henrichsen)

Teaching Your Children Training an Animal Making a Disciple Pix taken from: http://americanpreppersnetwork.com/2013/02/training-your-dog-for-survival.html Pix taken from: http://www.templeabq.org/ministries/personal-discipleship/

Discipleship in Parenting 1. It has to be Voluntary 自願的 John 約翰福音6:66-69 66 從此，他門徒中多有退去的，不再和他同行. 67 耶穌就對那十二個門徒說:「你們也要去嗎?」 68 西門‧彼得回答說:「主啊，你有永生之道，我們還歸從誰呢？ 69 我們已經信了，又知道你是　神的聖者.」 66 From this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him. 67 “You do not want to leave too, do you?” Jesus asked the Twelve.68 Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. 69 We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God.”

Discipleship in Parenting 1. It has to be Voluntary 自願的 Don’t ever underestimate men’s desire for Freedom

Genesis 創世記 2:9, 15-17 9 耶和華　神使各樣的樹從地裡長出來，可以悅人的眼目，其上的果子好作食物。園子當中又有生命樹和分別善惡的樹… 15 耶和華　神將那人安置在伊甸園，使他修理，看守。 16 耶和華　神吩咐他說：「園中各樣樹上的果子，你可以隨意吃， 17 只是分別善惡樹上的果子，你不可吃，因為你吃的日子必定死！」 9 The LORD God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. 15 The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16 And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

Genesis 創世記 2:9, 15-17 9 耶和華　神使各樣的樹從地裡長出來，可以悅人的眼目，其上的果子好作食物。園子當中又有生命樹和分別善惡的樹… 15 耶和華　神將那人安置在伊甸園，使他修理，看守。 16 耶和華　神吩咐他說：「園中各樣樹上的果子，你可以隨意吃， 17 只是分別善惡樹上的果子，你不可吃，因為你吃的日子必定死！」 9 The LORD God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. 15 The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16 And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

Large Boundary with A LOT of Freedom

Genesis 創世記 2:9, 15-17 9 耶和華　神使各樣的樹從地裡長出來，可以悅人的眼目，其上的果子好作食物。園子當中又有生命樹和分別善惡的樹… 15 耶和華　神將那人安置在伊甸園，使他修理，看守。 16 耶和華　神吩咐他說：「園中各樣樹上的果子，你可以隨意吃， 17 只是分別善惡樹上的果子，你不可吃，因為你吃的日子必定死！」 9 The LORD God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. 15 The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16 And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

Large Boundary with A LOT of Freedom - Guidelines on what NOT to do - Reason & Consequence when you go outside of the boundary. - For our own good!!!

Genesis 創世記3:4-6 4蛇對女人說：「你們決不會死；5因為　神知道你們吃那果子的時候，你們的眼睛就開了；你們會像　神一樣，能知道善惡。」 6於是，女人見那棵樹的果子好作食物，又悅人的眼目，而且討人喜愛，能使人有智慧，就摘下果子來吃了；又給了和她在一起的丈夫，他也吃了。 4 The serpent said to the woman, “You surely will not die! 5 For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” 6 When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate.

9 But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” Genesis 3:9-11 9耶和華　神呼喚那人，對他說：「你在哪裡？」 10他回答：「我在園中聽見你的聲音，就害怕；因為我赤身露體，就藏了起來。」 11耶和華　神說：「誰告訴你，你是赤身露體呢？難道你吃了我吩咐你不可吃的那樹上的果子嗎？」 9 But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” 10 He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” 11 And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”

Large Boundary with A LOT of Freedom Relationship: Oppressive in nature  Suppressive or Disobedient 壓制 壓抑 叛逆

Discipleship in Parenting 1. It has to be Voluntary 自願的 青春期 teenager It’s not a 叛逆期 (period of disobedience) It’s a 收成期 (period of reaping): reap what you have been sowing for the past 15 yrs.

Discipleship in Parenting 1. It has to be Voluntary 自願的 2. It is different than Teacher-Student 不是師生關係 Student: Transfer of Knowledge 知識傳授 Disciple: Passing on of life 生命傳承

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Ephesians 以弗所書 5:20-21 I Peter 彼得前書 2:17 20 凡事要奉我們主耶穌基督的名常常感謝父 神。 20 凡事要奉我們主耶穌基督的名常常感謝父　神。 21 又當存敬畏基督的心，彼此順服。 20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.   I Peter 彼得前書 2:17 17 務要尊敬眾人，親愛教中的弟兄，敬畏　神， 尊敬君王。 17 Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.

Ephesians 以弗所書 5:20-21 I Peter 彼得前書 2:17 20 凡事要奉我們主耶穌基督的名常常感謝父 神。 20 凡事要奉我們主耶穌基督的名常常感謝父　神。 21 又當存敬畏基督的心，彼此順服。 20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.   I Peter 彼得前書 2:17 17 務要尊敬眾人，親愛教中的弟兄，敬畏　神， 尊敬君王。 17 Show proper respect to (honor, value尊榮) everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.

Ephesians 以弗所書 6:4 你們作父親的，不要惹兒女的氣， 只要照著主的教訓和警戒養育他們。 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Discipleship in Parenting 1. It has to be Voluntary 自願的 2. It is different than Teacher-Student 不是師生關係

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Genesis 3:4-6 4蛇對女人說:「你們決不會死 ; 5因為　神知道你們吃那果子的時候，你們的眼睛就開了；你們會像 神一樣，能知道善惡。」 6於是，女人見那棵樹的果子好作食物，又悅人的眼目，而且討人喜愛，能使人有智慧（給人有智慧的慾望），就摘下果子來吃了… 4 The serpent said to the woman, “You surely will not die! 5 For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” 6 When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate… Pix taken from: https://meshawnsenior.wordpress.com/tag/satan/

不是得到判斷善惡的能力 Did not get the Ability to Discern Right vs. Wrong 而是要自己來分別善惡的「意願」 或說「慾望」而已 But merely the Desire to Discern Right vs. Wrong based on our own standards

James 雅各 Ch.3 1我的弟兄們，你們不應該有太多人作教師，因為知道我們作教師的將受更嚴厲的審判。 2 我們在許多的事上都有過錯，假如有人在言語上沒有過錯，他就是完全的人，也能夠控制全身。 3 我們若把嚼環扣入馬嘴，使牠們馴服，就能駕馭牠們的全身。 4 試看，船隻雖然甚大，又被狂風催逼，舵手只用小小的舵，就可以隨意操縱。 1Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. 2 We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check. 3 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go.

Anger / Be Angry ≠ Sin Ephesians以弗所書4:26 生氣卻不要犯罪；不可含怒到日落， 也不可給魔鬼留地步。 BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity (or a place). 詩 Psalm 37:8 你要抑制怒氣，消除烈怒； 不要心懷不平，那只會導致你作惡。 Cease from anger and forsake wrath; Do not fret; it leads only to evildoing. Anger / Be Angry ≠ Sin

Colossians 歌羅西書 3:8 但現在你們要棄絕這一切的事，以及惱恨、忿怒、惡毒(或譯陰毒)、毀謗，並口中污穢的言語. But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth.

God is Holy / Righteous 聖潔、公義, God is Love 愛