Spiritual Parenting: 灵性的养育 A Family Network Program 一个以家庭为网络的活动

父母 Parents “Are the guarantors of faith. They give children their first pictures of God and help them develop a wonderful Christian virtue called trust, which as they grow older becomes the basis for faith.” 「是儿女信仰的担保人，是第一个把上帝的形象传给儿女的人，并帮助他们发展基督徒美德，就是一颗信靠上帝的心。随着儿女的成长，这种美德就成了他们信仰的根基。」

调查结果： 健康家庭的因素 Research: Factors for Strong Families Mother comfortable with faith talk. 母亲常常与儿女谈论信仰问题。 Enforces drug standards. 家庭有使用药物的规范。 Family worship is interesting and meaningful. 家庭崇拜是有趣和有意义的。 Parents strongly oppose adolescent alcohol use. 父母坚决反对青少年喝含酒精的饮品。 Loving, caring family. 有爱心和关怀的家庭。 Mother is highly religious. 母亲是非常虔诚的信徒。 Parents punish wrong behavior. 儿女的行为不对，父母会惩罚。 Frequent parent/child communication. 父母经常与儿女沟通。 Parents set limits. 父母设定行为的界线。 Father often talks to child about his faith. 父亲常与孩子谈论自己的信仰。 Frequent family helping projects. 经常全家出动做义工（志工）活动

Potential Dynamics in the Family 家庭潜在的动力 Nurturing intentional family spirituality 培育全家的属灵生命 Strengthening family worship 加强家庭崇拜 Mentoring personal faith 个人的信仰获得教益 Understanding our heritage 了解本身家庭的传统 Facilitating faithful families 培育忠心事主的家庭

Intentional Spirituality 家人属灵的生命 Intentional Spirituality

Spirituality focuses on a growing What do you think about when you hear the word “religion?” Spirituality 当你听到「信仰」 这个词时，你会 想到甚么﹖ 属灵生命 Spirituality focuses on a growing sense of a daily relationship with Jesus Christ as your Lord. 属灵生命就是你越来越感到需要每日与耶稣建立关系，承认祂是你的主。 Spirituality is never done only in private, it involves community. 我们不但在个人灵修中培育属灵生命，也要在社群中培育。

属灵生命 The family is the place where Spirituality 属灵生命 (Eph. 4:11-16) 以弗所书4:11-16 The family is the place where God is first learned. 家庭是儿女首先认识上帝的地方 Spiritual life naturally grows, as do the people in which it is experienced. 属灵生命是自然成长，人也会随着所经历的属灵生命成长。 Spiritual life is a part of every stage of life 灵性生活要成为人生每个阶段的一部分。

Key Dimensions to Intentional Spiritual Parenting 属灵生命的主要范围 #1 Make the choice to do something #1 决定行动 Make spirituality to be a focus and target for your family life 使属灵生命成为家庭生活的 　　　　焦点和目标

#2 Provide opportunities for spiritual growth #2 为灵命成长提供机会 Provide提供: the community地方; the opportunity机会, environment where God’s love can be felt一个感觉到上帝的爱的环境

#3 将你的决定化为行动 #3 Move your choices to action Develop action plans and make commitments to stick with those plans 把行动计划写出来，承诺要照着计划去行。

#4 Spirituality is not just #4 属灵的生命不仅是个人的事，也是家庭的事 a private matter, it is a family matter #4 属灵的生命不仅是个人的事，也是家庭的事 Establish patterns for spiritual life: 为属灵生活建立一些模式： prayers before meals, at bedtime, and during times of trouble. 饭前祈祷、睡前祈祷和在困境中祈祷 church attendance & participation 出席和参与教会崇拜/活动 family worship 家庭崇拜

#5 Relationships with others central and crucial #5人际关系 十分重要 Care for our spouses and parents. 关心我们的配偶和父母 Care for others around us: the sick, homeless, neighbors 关心我们身边的人：病人、露宿者和邻居

家庭崇拜 Family Worship

The Valuegenesis Project on Family Worship 家庭崇拜之价值调查结果 VG 2 VG 1 How often does your family have worship? 你的家庭有多少次崇拜聚会? Never从来没有　　　　　　　 23% 26% Less than once a month一个月少于一次 13% 11% About once a month 大概一个月一次 7% 6% About 2-3 times a month大概一个月两至三次 9% 8% About once a week大概一星期一次 16% 15% Several times a week一星期几次 11% 11% Once a day 每日一次　 15% 15% More than once a day每日多于一次 　　 6% 8%

Key Factors in Creative #1 Make family worship short, 创意的家庭崇拜具备的要素 #1 Make family worship short, sweet and simple #1 时间短、有趣和简单 5-10 minutes – preschoolers 5-10 分钟 – 学前儿童 15-20 minutes -- primary age 15-20 分钟 – 小学阶段儿童

#2 Make worship meaningful #2 是一次有意义的崇拜 Start where the children live. 从孩子熟悉的地方开始 Use significant events at school, and at play. 利用一些在学校、游乐场所发生的事为主题 Use relevant life situations for spiritual lessons. 利用合适的生活例证来带出属灵教训

#3 Make worship frequent #3 使崇拜成为习惯 Habits are formed by repetition 不断重复做便成为习惯 #4 Do "shared" worship #4 人人有份参与 Share leadership 　轮流带领崇拜 Switch methods 　不同的带领方法 Involve children 　给孩子参与

#5 特定一段时间 #5 Find a regular time Study all your schedules to see what might work. 查看自己哪一段时间方便 Build a schedule and begin to keep it. 订一个时间表，并开始照时间表进行 Better to do something once a week with meaning than to try to fit worships into an overly crowded schedule. 只要家庭崇拜做得有意义，一星期一次都可以，不必在一周安排得密麻麻的时间表内安排多次的家庭崇拜聚会。

#6 Set an important example #6 作个好榜样 Parental attitudes, actions, habits, priorities, speech, gestures, excitement, etc. reflect and teach children just what kind of a God they serve. 父母的态度、行为、习惯、谈吐、姿态、放在首位要做的事，热诚去做的事等，都反映着他们所侍奉和教导儿女去认识的上帝是一位怎样的上帝。

#7 Use routine moments to see God #7 利用平日来亲近上帝 Prayer at mealtimes and bedtimes. 饭前、睡前祈祷 > Reading the Bible with the children at breakfast, supper or before bedtime. 在早餐、晚餐前和睡前与儿女一起读圣经 > Develop your own personal devotional time. 有个人灵修的时间

Mentoring Personal Faith 个人的信仰获得教益 Mentoring Personal Faith

Key Factors in Mentoring Faith #1 Don't forget congenial 个人信仰获得教益的要素 #1 Don't forget congenial relationships #1 家人之间要和谐共处 #2 Use gentle reasoning #2 用论据说服人心

#3 说有信心的话 #4 研究上帝的话语 #5 以谦虚的态度彼此沟通 #6 保持正面思想 #3 Don't forget faith-talk #3 说有信心的话 #4 Study God's word #4 研究上帝的话语 #5 Communicate through a grace orientation #5　以谦虚的态度彼此沟通 #6 Keep everything positive #6 保持正面思想

#7 诚心祈祷 > Pray out loud with > Teach children different types #7 Pray in your own words #7 诚心祈祷 > Pray out loud with children 与儿女一起开声向上帝祷告 > Teach children different types of prayers: 教导儿女认识不同形式的祷告: * ACTS prayersACTS祷告模式 A – adoration敬拜 C – confession认罪 T – thanksgiving 感恩 S – supplication/petition 恳求/祈求

#8 在经常和自然会祈祷的时间内祷告 #8 Pray at regular and natural times -- leaving for school上课之前 -- before driving somewhere 驾车之前 -- leave for overnight stay 出外留宿之前 -- sickness生病 -- birthdays生日

#10 学习关怀和分享 #9 家庭祷告可以在不同的地方进行 #10 Learn to care and share #11 激发相爱和怜悯 #9 Vary positions and locations of prayer for the family #9 家庭祷告可以在不同的地方进行 #10 Learn to care and share #10 学习关怀和分享 #11 Encourage love and compassion #11 激发相爱和怜悯

了解本身家庭的传统 Understanding Our Heritage

#1 Teach your "little story" of faith and your family history Keys To Nurturing A　Sense of History 培养儿女对家族历史感兴趣的方法 #1 Teach your "little story" of faith and your family history #1 讲述你信主的故事 和家族的历史 #2 Share the "big story" of faith #2 分享其他人信主的故事

#4 解释圣经要道的问题 #3 讲述信心英雄的故事 #3 Share the heroes of faith with your kids #4 Clarify doctrinal questions #4 解释圣经要道的问题

#5 Spend time together learning your family's values #5 把家庭的价值观传给下一代 Substance abuse standards 使用药物的规范 Way of life standards 生活方式的标准 * Popular cultural standards 接受新兴文化的标准

培育忠心事主的家庭 Developing Family Spirituality

#1 Build Strong #1 建立稳固的 Relationships 关系

#2 Know what your children #3 Know your children's friends are doing #2 知道你的儿女 做甚么 #3 Know your children's friends #3 认识儿女的朋友 #4 Help them make responsible choices #4 帮助他们作 负责任的决定

#5 Search for a spiritual community where your family can thrive #5 寻找一个助你家庭 成长的教会 #6 Start your family's journey now #6 现在就开始 你的家庭养育灵命之旅