建立美好的家庭祭壇 盧傑 翁瑞瑛 2008 年9月

認識家庭祭壇 1。聖經中的家庭祭壇 挪亞（創8:23-9:7） 亞伯拉罕（創22:1-14） 約伯（約伯記1：5） 2。家庭祭壇不是什麽？ 講道、聊天、唱詩會 例行公事…

認識家庭祭壇 3。家庭祭壇是什麽？ 固定分別時間 全家一起參與 同心與主相交 “ a routine practice of -- 家庭禮拜或家庭崇拜 固定分別時間 全家一起參與 同心與主相交 “ a routine practice of Spending time with the Lord together as a family” Each Christian family must have a routine time of focusing on the scripture and praying for one another. This time is commonly called "Family Devotions". Some call this Family Worship or the Family Altar. This refers to a routine practice of coming together as an entire family to read or study the Bible and pray for one another and other pressing needs. "Routine" also refers to a special time set aside each day. The family altar provides a focus for family prayer. It is a regular place where the family can gather for whatever simple or elaborate worship they choose to use as a family.

The Deuteronomy 6 Mandate

The Psalm 78 Challenge 因為，他在雅各中立法度，在以色列中設律法；是他吩咐我們祖宗要傳給子孫的，使將要生的後代子孫可以曉得；他們也要起來告訴他們的子孫，好叫他們仰望神，不忘記神的作為，惟要守他的命令。 (Psa 78:5-7) (Psa 78:1-4) （亞薩的訓誨詩。）我的民哪，你們要留心聽我的訓誨，側耳聽我口中的話。我要開口說比喻；我要說出古時的謎語，是我們所聽見、所知道的，也是我們的祖宗告訴我們的。我們不將這些事向他們的子孫隱瞞，要將耶和華的美德和他的能力，並他奇妙的作為，述說給後代聽。 (Psa 78:5-7) 因為，他在雅各中立法度，在以色列中設律法；是他吩咐我們祖宗要傳給子孫的，使將要生的後代子孫可以曉得；他們也要起來告訴他們的子孫，好叫他們仰望神，不忘記神的作為，惟要守他的命令。

Raising Spiritual Champions (Adapted from George Barna) More than 4 out of 5 parents (85%) believe they have the primary responsibility, yet, 2 out of 3 willingly give this responsibility to the church. In a typical week fewer than 10% of parents who regularly attend church with their children read the bible together, pray together (other than meals), or participate in an act of service as a family.

Raising Spiritual Champions (Adapted from George Barna) Only 1 out of 20 families worship together, other than at church. This does not distress most parents because: This is how their parents did it. Most parents do not feel spiritually mature or spiritually inclined.

We have lulled ourselves into complacency 9 out of 10 parents are satisfied with church programming 2 out of 3 pastors claim the church is doing an excellent job in children’s ministry The results？？

The results？？ 4 out of 5 churched 13 year olds do not know what worship is. A majority of churched 13 year olds do not believe they have experienced God. Fewer than 5% of churched 13 year olds have a biblical worldview. 70% of churched teens walk away from their faith the first year of college. Higher in Asian American college students: 85 – 95%

The Fact As Christian parents, the single most important task is to spiritually train their children. One to two hours per week of ‘spiritual training’ at church is not enough to give children the spiritual grounding necessary to cultivate a strong relationship with Jesus Christ.

Group Discussion Who or what are some of things influencing children today? What skill areas you think each child needs to begin life on their own? What is your biggest fear or frustration in talking with your kids about God? What is your desire in this area as a parent? So Many Programs, So Many Opportunities, So Little Time... How persons shape their “self-identity”? Parents, family of origin, education, teacher, peers, ethnicity / race, culture A mature Christian looks at himself / herself through God’s eyes. God is the mirror which reflects a person’s self-image, self-value, and self-identity. Parents are their kids’ mirror through that how children see themselves.

四種能力 知道智慧的決定 具備美好的品格 擁有異象和目標 應用生活的技能 孩子離家前需具備的 （父母的教養目標） There are four skill areas that each child needs to begin life on their own. These will make up the sum of the parent’s target. To make wise decisions To possess character To have vision and purpose（異象；願憬） To have and use life skills

1。神的命令 2。現代環境的挑戰 3。對家庭成員的影響 建立家庭祭壇的必要性 1。神的命令 2。現代環境的挑戰 3。對家庭成員的影響

家庭祭壇 主要內容 敬拜讚美 學習真理 分享交通 同心禱告 《一同經歷神》 To worship (sing and praise) God To read and honor the Words of God To discuss and share what you’ve learned To pray to God and for one another

如何實行 家庭祭壇？ 沒有兩個一樣的家庭 沒有「如何實行手冊」 只有實用的參考建議 No two families are the same No “how-to” manual but rather suggestions The family altar usually begins as a group project in which all the members consider the connections to God and to one another that are crucial to the family. Over time, different members may add items or replace old ones. The altar can evolve as children grow, as ways of connecting change, and as traditions develop. From time to time the whole family might decide to overhaul the family altar. Whatever its form, the family altar remains a place for worship and for remembering God's works.

1。設立可達成的目標 2。善用時間 （固定時間和地點） 3。內容靈活與創意 4。人人參與 5。愛與接納 （保持安全的環境） 成功家庭祭壇的建議 1。設立可達成的目標 2。善用時間 （固定時間和地點） 3。內容靈活與創意 4。人人參與 5。愛與接納 （保持安全的環境）

成功家庭祭壇的建議 （使用孩子的語言） 7。 提供討論與分享的機會 8。 注重生活應用 9。 不要閒聊、批評、 說教、管教小孩 6。 配合孩子發展階段 （使用孩子的語言） 7。 提供討論與分享的機會 8。 注重生活應用 9。 不要閒聊、批評、 說教、管教小孩 10。夫妻誰先感動， 誰先開始

家庭祭壇成功的關鍵 “忠心的領導者” 讓自己進入神的話語 作你自己 自我成長 分享自己 為家人與聚會禱告 預期會有阻力但堅持到底 A “must” key to establish family devotion tradition “Be a faithful leader” Be in the Word yourself Be yourself Grow yourself Share yourself Pray for your family members and family devotion meeting. Expect resistance and retain persistency.

1。事前的預備 夫婦同心禱告 決定內容、次數、時間、 統籌者、工作分配、 進行程序等 參考孩子的意見 家庭祭壇的實行 1。事前的預備 夫婦同心禱告 決定內容、次數、時間、 統籌者、工作分配、 進行程序等 參考孩子的意見

家庭祭壇的實行 2。選擇適合的題材（1) 讀聖經 靈修書籍 聖經遊戲 聖經地理 圖片／相片 實物學習 角色扮演 Read Bible Devotional books Bible games Have a map study Use pictures Object lessons Read short biographies of godly servants Read wholesome short stories Use songs Listen or watch to sermons Family service

家庭祭壇的實行 2。選擇適合的題材(2) 有關神僕人的傳記 有關信仰的故事 認識詩歌 觀賞影片 聽一段講道 家庭服務

Online resources www.heritagebuilders.com www.youthbuilders.com www.homeword.com www.bigideafoundation.org www.childministry.com www.family.org

3。進行的原則: 配合自己家庭的特色 力求輕鬆、簡短、變化、 創意 隨孩子的成長而更新 發展屬於自己的家庭、 有意義的儀式 家庭祭壇的實行 3。進行的原則: 配合自己家庭的特色 力求輕鬆、簡短、變化、 創意 隨孩子的成長而更新 發展屬於自己的家庭、 有意義的儀式

Consider this format START ON TIME: it sends a good message TONE: upbeat, positive attitude HOOK: related to their world /interests BOOK: relate the hook to a Bible verse PRINCIPLE: relate the biblical principle back to their world QUESTION OR COMMENT: involve them with a question, or by inviting a comment PRAYER: involve your children in praying END ON TIME: to keep them from getting flustered

因為無論 在那裡， 有兩三個人奉我的名 聚會， 那裡就有 我在他們 中間。」 (Mat 18:20)

家庭祭壇實錄

建立美好的家庭祭壇 Q and A?

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